Tracy Wilder

Most of my clients are thoughtful, capable people who have spent a long time trying to figure things out — and in many ways, they have. What brings them to therapy is usually something that hasn’t responded to effort alone: an anxiety that keeps resurfacing, a relationship stuck in the same patterns, or the weight of past experiences that still show up in ways they don’t fully understand yet.

I came to this work through my own experience of watching someone I love struggle for years to find the right support — and then seeing what changed when they finally did. That stayed with me. It’s a big part of why I take the question of fit seriously, and why I try to be straightforward with people from the start about what working together actually looks like.

My approach is direct. I’m not the therapist who will sit back while you circle the same pattern for months. I will challenge your thinking, point out what I’m noticing, and keep us focused on what’s actually going to move things forward. That doesn’t mean pushing for change before you’re ready—but it does mean being honest about where you may be getting in your own way. The clients who tend to benefit most from this work are those who are open to being challenged and are willing to engage in the process, even when it’s uncomfortable.

I frequently work with anxiety, trauma, and relationship difficulties. Trauma work — including PTSD and complex trauma — is an area I find deeply meaningful. It often shows up as chronic anxiety, emotional overwhelm, difficulty trusting others, or a persistent sense of shame that’s hard to shake. Many of the people I see in this space are carrying experiences they’ve never fully spoken aloud, or have spent years trying to manage on their own. What I’m working toward with trauma clients goes beyond symptom reduction — it’s helping them move toward nervous system regulation, more secure ways of relating to themselves and others, loosening the grip of chronic shame, and feeling less controlled by reactions that once felt automatic or overwhelming.

With couples, I’m particularly interested in what happens between two people in real time: not just what they bring individually, but how they function together under stress, and how to help them find a way through that actually works for both of them.

I also work with a range of other concerns — depression, grief, life transitions, self-esteem, and more. If you’re not sure whether what you’re dealing with is something I work with, the best thing to do is reach out.

This work tends to be a good fit for people who are ready to look at themselves honestly and are open to doing things differently, even if it takes time.

I offer a free consultation so we can both get a sense of whether it’s a good fit.

Clinical Supervision

I offer individual clinical supervision for Registered Psychotherapists and Registered Psychotherapists Qualifying.

Supervision with me tends to be a mix of case consultation, clinical thinking, honest feedback and collaboration. I’ll follow up when something needs more time, challenge you when you’re stuck, and take the work seriously — because I think that’s what the people you’re seeing deserve.

I have particular experience in anxiety, trauma, and couples work, and I’m well-placed to support therapists who are building or deepening their practice in any of those areas.

If you’re a therapist looking for supervision that goes beyond checking boxes, reach out to discuss availability and set up a consultation free of charge. I can work one on one or with a group of 2 to 6 people for a 90 min session.